Grief is a normal and sometimes powerful range of thoughts and feelings that individuals have after a loss.
The range of emotions might include shock, anger, depression, numbness, confusion and/or guilt as a result, and these and other symptoms of grief can happen suddenly, or build over time. It is likely that they will also change as time goes on, sometimes in unexpected ways.
Any type of loss can trigger feelings of grief: changing jobs, schools or locations, relationship break-ups, illness, death, and family conflicts are just a few examples. Individuals may isolate themselves from others during grief and in some intense cases, engage in self-destructive behaviors as a way to cope.
If you are experiencing grief, the important thing to remember is that although you may feel isolated, you are not alone. There are people and resources that can help you work through your thoughts and feelings and provide a place of support in your time of need.
UA Life & Work Connections (621-2493) is here to support UA benefits-eligible staff, faculty and appointed personnel with no-cost, voluntary and confidential consultation, brief counseling, and/or referral services. We are here to provide a connection that we all need at some point, to walk this journey together. The following list of resources is also provided to can help you understand what grief is, and find other helpful resources as well.
Definitions of Grief:
- The Help Guide.com: Provides information to understand what grief is, causes and symptoms associated with grieving, and stages in the grieving process.
- Web MD: Provides hundreds of articles on health and grief, grief and depression, and coping skills to manage grief symptoms.
Local Tucson Resources for Grief:
- Tu Nidito ("your little nest"): Offers groups for children ranging from age 3-18, coping with the loss of a loved one, dealing with a serious illness, or having a parent diagnosed with cancer. They also offer a satellite grief group for young adults, ages 18-29 that meets at the U of A Campus Christian Center on the 2nd and 4th Wednesdays of the month.
- Homicide Survivors Inc.: Provides crisis resources and long term support for family and friends of murder victims, including help with financial concerns and advocacy in the judicial system.
- Survivors of Suicide (SOS): Provides support groups for those facing the suicide death of a loved one. Groups meet on Thursday nights in Tucson and Oro Valley. A Monday night online chat group is also offered.
- Carondelet Support Groups: Listings of open grief support groups as well as specific groups for loss of spouse, loss of an infant and adjustment due to a medical loss or injury.
Grief Resources on the Web:
- Grief Net: An email based support group for all kinds of grief, loss of spouse, child, partner, parent, etc. Groups are separated by type of loss, specific groups just for kids as well. Cost is $10 a month to join a group. All discussions are monitored.
- Kids Aid: a companion site to grief net for children. Also provides an email based group to join. Groups are separated by age, 12 and under and 13 to 18. Site provides kids a place to submit artwork and writings, as well as a posting board to have your questions answered.
- The Dougy Center: A place for children, teens, adults and families to share their experiences with grief. List of books, DVDs and training opportunities.