It is common knowledge that humans are social creatures. This biological need to develop social connections has been fundamental to the evolution and survival of the human species. However, how we have maintained these connections has changed as societies have become more complex.
Families are society’s foundational piece, providing individuals with a safe place to grow physically, socially, and emotionally. However, today, those families raising children are experiencing increased levels of anxiety and challenges none previous generations faced.
While working with young children and their families, I noticed that parents frequently experience two emotions: insecurity and guilt. Insecurity regarding their own capability and skills to raise and care for their kids, and the subsequent guilt for not being a better (or even a “perfect one”) parent.
Social media, overexposure to information, lack of enough or accessible high-quality childcare, an increasing number of single-parent or double-career families, school shootings, and/or crimes are among the most mentioned challenges families navigate these days.
Studies show that empowering parents increases the chances of developing the confidence to cope with conflicts successfully. In 2004, National Parent Leadership Month became a February annual celebration to support and provide resources that empower parents.
Parent Leadership can be promoted in two ways: individually and communally. If you consider yourself an empowered and confident parent leader and would like to advocate and promote a supportive community, you can explore the initiatives proposed by organizations like Children’s Trust Fund Alliance, FRIENDS, and the Center for the Study of Social Policy.
On the other hand, if you are looking for tools to help you feel empowered and confident, you may start by listening to some stories shared by “Voices of Parent Leaders” and “Conversations with Parent HEROES.”
Once you understand and recognize that you are not alone in this parenting journey and that making mistakes is part of learning and becoming a better parent, you will be ready to begin your growing/empowering process. Here are five suggestions to help you succeed in the process:
- Recognize that perfection is a fallacy and even unhealthy.
- Turn your mistakes into learning opportunities.
- Avoid feeling guilty by not wasting time on past errors. If you cannot do anything about it, focus on the future.
- If needed, ask for help. It is a sign of strength, not a weakness.
- Look for other families who share your values and beliefs.